Questions Mothers Can Ask Daughters

1. What does being loved well look like to you?

2. How would you tell the difference between someone caring about you and trying to control you?

3. What parts of your independence would you want to protect in a relationship?

4. How would you want a partner to respond when you say no or disagree?

5. What do you think about sharing passwords or your location with a partner? Would you feel free to change your mind?

6. What makes an apology meaningful to you?

7. If a relationship worried you, who would you feel comfortable talking to?

8. How could I make it easier for you to tell me something difficult, even if you thought I might disagree with your choices?

Questions Daughters Can Ask Mothers

1. What were you taught about love, loyalty and what women should tolerate?

2. Which beliefs about relationships have you reconsidered as you have grown older?

3. What do you think is the difference between a healthy compromise and giving up too much of yourself?

4. What would you want me to understand before sharing money, a home or children with someone?

5. How can we recognise whether someone respects our boundaries, especially when they feel disappointed?

6. What would help you feel comfortable telling me if something in your own relationship worried you?

7. How could we support each other without taking over each other’s decisions?

8. What would you most want me to remember if I ever felt torn between loving someone and protecting myself?